One of my college best friend called me last night and talked about having a tough time to decide if he should marry his fiancee. He brought up a few issues such as worry about getting a divorce and worry she won’t get along with his family, etc. I asked him if he loves her. He said he loves her but not madly in love. He never madly in love with anyone. I told him he needs to go with his gut/instinct. I told him that marriage has to come from the heart, not the brain. To help him to do that, I suggest he thinks about this scenario, if there are two pill (blue or red), take the blue pill, his current fiancee will be gone forever and he doesn’t even worry about breaking up with her, in fact it is like she never in his life in the first place. Take the red pill, she is his forever and all of the family issue, divorce worry, money issue, kids issue will be taken care off. Which pill will he take. If he wants to take the blue pill, then he should break off the engagement. If he wants to take the red pill, he should work out those issues. That seemed to give him a moment of clarity. I don’t know what his decision will be. But if he follows his instinct, I think he will not regret his decision.
Jun
12
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